How to Be Sexy and Find Love - A Stripper's Secrets Revealed


Strippers are real women just like you, but they have learned the secret combination to sexiness and have got it down to a fine art. You don't need a wig, fake tan, stilettos or professional lighting to make men eat out of the palm of your hand. External appearances can help, but it mostly comes down to confidence and attitude. You don't need bucket-loads of money either. Here are a few simple, yet subtle tricks you can use to ooze sex appeal and unleash your inner sex kitten.

1. Confidence
Sometimes it can be hard to pinpoint what makes a woman alluring. There's just something about the way she stands, moves or her intrinsic body language that says,' Hey baby. I am a powerful and sexy woman. Come on over (meow...).' At the root of this mysterious quality is self-confidence. To become sexy you need to build up your self-confidence. The best way to do this is to accept and love the body that God gave you (with a little perseverance, it's easier than it sounds). Believe me, not all men are attracted to Barbie doll look-a-likes. Your body is unique and you owe it to yourself to compliment and celebrate it.

Find ways to boost your self-confidence and your sexiness level will soar. One way you can do this is to focus on highlighting your best features. For example: If you have beautiful eyes, then apply cosmetics to enhance their impact. Another way to build self-confidence is to practice saying positive affirmations to yourself like, 'I am woman. Hear me roar!' or 'I feel positive and vibrant everyday,' or 'I love my body. I feel sexy and voluptuous.'

2. Posture
The more you work on building your self-confidence, the more you'll notice your posture improving. Women who are confident and stand up straight, look and feel like they're ready to take on the world. So stand up straight and stick your breasts out. You will immediately get more attention and look more approachable. Your entire energy will change in a more positively sexy and assertive way.

3. Premeditated Body Language
Just like posture, body language has a powerful effect on the senses. You might ask why I refer to it as 'pre-meditated?' I call it this because body language is usually something you're unaware of. However, in the following techniques we deliberately think about how we are going to use body language to influence and seduce men.

You can use body language to your advantage by echoing the movements of the man you're attracted to. If he looks in a certain direction, take a few seconds, then look in the same direction as him (this could also give you both another talking point in your conversation). Also, if he takes a sip of his drink, synchronize with him and take a sip of yours at the same time. You can also use your hands to rub or softly trace lines and circles on your glass, on the bar, your handbag or on either of your bodies. Only do this in nonsexual places, like his arm or tie (you want to be sexy, not tarty). Move slowly and gracefully in everything that you do. These tame, but flirtatious movements go along way to concreting your sexy mojo vibe. Tip: Don't play with or flick your hair too much. It doesn't project the desired sexiness and some men find it irritating.

4. Appearance
Take pride in your appearance. You don't have to take on an exhausting beauty routine, however you must at least shower regularly and moisturize your skin. Usually the bigger the beauty routine, the better the confidence. Add a few little finishing touches here and there, week by week and see what makes you feel the most seductive. For example, use a scented body wash or paint your nails.

5. Listen
Listen to what he is really saying and focus all of your concentration on him. Forget about "trying" to be accepted and making yourself look good. Stop talking, and let the spotlight fall on him. This doesn't mean you won't make any contributions to the conversation. It just means that it won't be so focused on you. Many males have the mistaken belief that women talk too much. Ask him questions about topics he's passionate about and slowly he will open up to you. If you take the time to listen to him, it will give you an element of mystery that will increase your sexiness. This is because most people can talk about themselves all day and when somebody else is interested, they immediately feel connected and more intimate with them. By doing this, you create the space for more sexiness to breed.

6. Pheromones
On the subject of breeding, I always struggled in my science classes when I was at high school. Even though I sucked at it, I did pick up something worthwhile. Here's a valuable chemistry lesson every woman should know. Pheromones are invisible secretions from our sweat glands that travel through the air and let men know that you are ripe and ready for breeding. These pheromones encourage attraction, intimacy and action! Some scientists believe oral contraceptives can interfere with your natural pheromones and change their quality.

If you're on the pill you could consider alternative methods of birth control and see if your sex appeal changes. But it's most important your method of contraception works effectively for you. There are natural alternatives you can try that will boost your invisible booty call. They include taking herbal supplements like zinc, sticking to a healthy diet, getting regular exercise and showering with no soap (as long as you don't get too stinky). There is also a range of products on the market that claim to increase your pheromones. Some of these perfumes, gels, oils, lotions and love potions are a little 'hocus pocus' so only choose reputable companies with proven results.

7. Self-respect
If sexiness was a diamond, self-respect is probably one of the diamond's hardest facets. Self-respect can be tough to build and doesn't usually just happen overnight. It can take a lifetime to develop and involves caring about yourself and acknowledging your worth on all levels. The best way to develop self-respect is to be true to yourself and your needs while still respecting the needs of others. Look after yourself and take care of your appearance because it will help you to build confidence. Another way to nurture self-respect is not taking criticism personally and not comparing yourself with others.